tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12693398814259609912012-02-16T16:55:07.868+08:00Thinking through the challenges of fidelity in a modern world.Sigmundnoreply@blogger.comBlogger301100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1269339881425960991.post-11271247177129792542007-07-30T06:53:00.000+08:002007-07-29T16:24:02.818+08:00

We took a trip to Galapagos, a trip that a recommend to everybody to try at least once in their life. There is more than enough written about the place that I don't have to, but there is something notable about actually experiencing an animal-rich environment where there were no major top predator land animals. As a consequence the animals are so tame you can walk up to them and grab them. Which

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Some people may not realize that Jenny and I spend almost a third of our time away from each other. Our work schedules do not mix. But we have adapted. These days it seems like a nearly ideal situation, although our perceptions may change in the future. What our current mode enables are highly concentrated segments of time where we are very focused on one thing. Unlike the days of most people,

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Here are some interesting relationship books to read. No, they are not the typical relationship books nor are they self-help books; I am rarely writing about a typical approach nor do I really care to help you, my dear readers! Instead these are books that outline some underlying research that Jenny and I found useful in the construction of our relationship principles. It may seem like a strange

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Recently Jenny has brought up the notion of a threesome. She has become what is called “bi-curious.” This is at the exploration stage, and she has not committed to actually trying it yet. But she brings it up from time to time, sometimes in a light jest, and sometimes in a “what if I wanted to, how would we…” kind of discussion, you know, purely hypothetical logistics. It could also be a

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A short post: Jenny and I went to see Lord of the Rings in London, a musical. Do not go with the Jackson movie in mind; but if you have an open mind and an interest in the books you will find it worthwhile. Condensing the story into the length of a single play is, of course, a challenge doomed to failure. But keeping such constraints and the musical medium in mind, it was not as bad as I had

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Given I now have a place to live, a few actually, I was once again in the market for an automobile. I have kept an automobile in storage with my sister, to the delight of her husband. It is a high performance sports car in the $250k range. I may have driven it a few hundred miles in the last few years. My brother in law might have driven it a few thousand miles. It was a good deal for him. They

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A longitudinal study on 7,403 persons run from 1979 until 2004 has failed to correlate intelligence to wealth, although it confirmed a correlation to income found in a variety of other studies (e.g. Brown and Reynolds, “A Model of IQ, Occupation and Earnings,” The American Economic Review, Vol. 65, No. 5, Dec., 1975, pp. 1002-1007, and many others). The sample population for this study came from

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I hosted Mark again, alternating back to the West Coast. First we met in Los Angeles. As part of my host duties I arranged some entertainment for him. As you may recall from a previous post, Mark had been appreciative of the eye candy but disappointed in the skills level of the previous American arrangements when compared to the skills available in Asia. My difficulty in arrangements was

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Here's a short observation. In a world full of cosmetic surgery, I now believe the most indicative part of a woman's body is her ankles. A shapely ankle to date has been an accurate indicator of my preferred body type and also happens to be relatively difficult to surgically alter. This is followed closely by the bone structure of the feet and hands, in conjunction with toes and fingers. The

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Back in November 2004 I did a risky thing with a courtesan I call Sanura: we playacted our way through a series of business meetings. In retrospect the entire notion seems insane, but at the time it was a lot of fun. The nadir of the experience was mind fucking Bob and Doug, two associates of a finance demigod I called The Man. Wouldn't you know it, later on I end up partnering with The Man on a

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I have received dozens of emails berating me for failing to write about sex and monogamy. Here are my lame excuses. 1. It is a very complicated topic. I have many posts that I have started, but have not posted because I believe they fail to capture the real feel of the situations. There are many nuances in love and relationships that make their context more difficult to describe than simpler sex.

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Last Christmas was a real doozy. The union of our various families has been a rocky process indeed. Jenny and I were apart for over a week between Thanksgiving and Christmas while I hung out with a few billionaires trying to save the world. Needless to say, we didn't. After that, full of the optimism that drove me to try so many startups, I once again had planned a full slate of family holiday

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Over a year ago I gave a speech in a foreign country at a national convention. I took Jenny to the convention where they were kind enough to give her a front row seat. It was one of those talks where I hit it out the park and there was a standing ovation. Everybody was very pleased since I was considered a risky speaker, and audience members even lined up for my autograph. When we got back to the

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Here are some very short catch up posts. I may edit this as I remember more of what I've been forgetting to post.I went to two events hosted by Xenii in Hollywood. It is an interesting concept. Apparently private parties have far fewer restrictions on them in the United States, and outfits like Xenii have become popular with the Hollywood crowd. It was still typical Hollywood, though.While I was

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Although I have other topics about which I should post, a few recent events have elbowed their way to the head of the queue. The return of Amy is one such event.You may recall that Amy was a recent experience that battered my resolve with short term temptations. One of the key issues with Amy was that she appeared to be a more conventionally ideal mate for me than Jenny: her language skills,

Sigmundnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1269339881425960991.post-66228782224297106372007-03-11T02:52:00.000+08:002007-03-12T10:32:38.331+08:00

We all know that marketing is a huge business. The focus on raising our base instincts for competition, material ownership, and desire into economic transactions is the most successful marriage of science and art in history.I watch almost no television. Like smoking, all my exposure is second hand, seeing it out of the corner of my eye in a public venue or at somebody else's home. Display

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I was invited to a crazy dinner in Bangkok at the Lebua Hotel the day before yesterday from which I am only just now recovering, whereas Jenny claims she will need to redouble her workouts for another month to recover.Six chefs who each have eighteen Michelin stars between them (there, I made the math easy!) prepared over a dozen courses paired with wines. The entire meal was ridiculously over

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I mentioned earlier that I would interleave the blog with stories of my prior cheating behaviors, as well as incidents where I resisted temptation. Here is the first post in the former category.Recall that Jenny reads these posts and that our relationship is based on honesty, what some would call brutal honesty. All of what I post in the blog has been previously disclosed and discussed with Jenny

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The project on sexual expertise has encountered a small setback. The first trainer we hired turned out to rub Jenny the wrong way. I did not even have the opportunity to determine whether or not she rubbed me the wrong way! ;-)The trainer was clearly used to training women of somewhat lower social status and had a very imperative approach. Two weeks and four solo training sessions later, Jenny

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I just read a book called Nightwork: Sexuality, Pleasure, and Corporate Masculinity in a Tokyo Hostess Club. [Amazon reference] I recommend it to those interested in how and why hostess clubs operate and their role in Asian society. I make this recommendation despite the horribly inappropriate cover art.Nightwork is a somewhat scholarly work by an associate professor and one-time acting chair of

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I once had a special purpose room, the last time I had a house. It was a crazy room. I was flush with cash after making a second fortune, and I splurged a large amount on a media room. Now when I say “media room,” I really mean a special purpose room for, well, enjoying media. In particular movies, music, and computers. My media room was pretty crazy. I would tell you all about how crazy it was,

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Initially Jenny was somewhat disturbed by the nature of my experiments in sex and relationships. The parties and such she could explain as “guys having fun,” but my more, um, personal experiences were discomforting. In fact we had many discussions, some heated, about this early on in our relationship. Later as we built trust and I had more opportunity to demonstrate my commitment and love, she

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Despite what you might think from the media, it is quite unlikely there are any behaviors that map to single genes. Yet between 2002 and 2005 the media was swept with stories about genes for homosexuality, aggression and violence, intelligence, and, yes, even infidelity, as if our complex behaviors were switched on and off by small fragments of DNA. The infidelity stories were predominantly

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An earlier post reminded me about the Marriage Fund I set up last summer. I thought this is worth an update, since it embodies much of the values in our monogamous relationship. Here were the key points from my earlier post, along with the update in italics:Create the explicit rules that are the foundation of our relationship. I wrote about the importance of doing this here. We have been doing

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It is the afternoon after Halloween (in Asia) and I think we have recovered from the freak show that is Halloween in Hong Kong. I had no idea.Unfortunately this post is going to put the other posts in the queue out of order. I am allowing it to jump in the queue to post it in a timely manner, whereas the other posts which were started earlier have not been completed. Ah, the challenges of

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I have written before about the strange basis of my relationship with Jenny. It is an experiment, hopefully a life-long one. We do a major assessment every quarter.Because of this, everything in the blog is subject to Jenny's view. But not her editing or approval. It is yet another test of the honesty approach. It turns out that this constraint is not nearly as confining as many seem to think;

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Jenny and I attended the Armani RED party in London in late September, during what is called Fashion Week. It had rained in the afternoon but cleared up nicely at night. In fact the weather was about as nice as you could wish for in London at that time of year.The event is a charity event for Bono, the U2 lead singer who, often in partnership with Bill Gates (go figure that!), has been an

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I have done a lot of startups. Many early stage venture capitalists believe that once they fund a startup, the probability of long term survival is in the neighborhood of 10% and 20%. Tough neighborhood.Of course that's just the ones these guys fund. And given that venture capitalists are relatively risk adverse (I have only done one venture-funded company, three if you count ones where the VCs

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I almost never give advice. That is because the devil is in the details, and most of the details are in the context. Context is not rapidly appreciated by an advisor because it is very rare that any two people experience the same context. Similar, yes, but not the same. It is in our nature as humans to over fit our experience to that of others. We see similarities and assume self-relevance where

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Hello, I am Sigmund, and welcome to my new blog.I am a successful entrepreneur who spent several years exploring relationships in what people tell me was an unusual way. I documented some of my adventures in a blog entitled, “Adventures in Sex and Relationships.” These adventures ranged from group sex to blind dates, from adventure travel to luxury travel, from an orgy with American porn stars to

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